Loehr-Daniels Life Reading Reports
Consultation Reading for Martha Mason
Given November 21, 1963
by Helen Roberts
Most of our readers know that for several years now I have been working with preserving the Loehr-Daniels Life and Teaching Readings by putting them on CDs. We started with the newest readings (1988) and are working back through to the earliest ones in the 1950s. At the present time I am depersonalizing readings from the early 1960s.
It constantly strikes me how the advice Dr. John gave 40 years ago is still appropriate today. This should come as no great surprise since the readings have a two-fold purpose: (1) to help the individual receiving the reading and (2) to bring a body of spiritual teachings for the New Age.
In this day of suicide bombings, terrorism, and needless self-imposed martyrdom, I think it is appropriate to bring you this particular reading from 1963. Dr. John tells Martha that she should avoid being a martyr in this life. Last lifetime she developed a martyr complex and this life should break that pattern of martyrdom.
Although he does not use the phrase “tough love,” which became so popular 30 years later, Dr. John says that the love way is not to continually forgive a person who is doing something wrong. Such forgiveness merely condones wrong actions, thereby encouraging them. He criticizes Martha for allowing herself to be taken advantage of.
I recently gave psychography to a man (Let’s call him Pete) who had left a domineering wife. For a long time, Pete committed to the relationship, being the best husband he could, hoping she would meet him halfway. He finally decided that he would never convince her to quit trying to control his every action.
In the psychography session, Pete discovered that he had been a slave in the late 1700s in America. In that lifetime, the slave master controlled all his actions. In this lifetime, his wife had become his slave master, destroying his freedom. By breaking her control, Pete became a free man in this life.
Leaving her was also an act of tough love, because he no longer condoned (encouraged) her domination. She could not control him unless he stayed with her and allowed it.
Both Martha and Pete had to avoid being taken advantage of in order to break the patterns they inherited from a past life, and they had to use tough love to do so.
I also like Martha’s reading because it stresses the need for each of us to take care of ourselves. Religion too often stresses our helping others to the detriment of our own welfare. It is important for each of us to remember that we are worthy and should consider our own needs as well as others.
Consultation readings were given at one time. They were short because they allowed only one question, so we bring it in its entirety, starting after Dr. John is contacted.
By Helen Roberts
Conductor: Good morning, John. We come at this time on behalf of Martha Mason, who was born August 2, 1911. And the first thing I would like to ask is if there is previous life acquaintance between Martha and her mother. I think her mother’s name is Mrs. Hazel Hopkins. Is there previous connection between Martha and her mother?
Dr. John: No. This is a very interesting picture that is being presented to us. The overall learning before this soul that is getting the experience of Martha, is to learn to balance the element of service to others with service to self.
Now the service-to-others element is very deeply rooted in this one. Past life experiences have emphasized the particular teaching that one is in earthliving to serve others. This was particularly strong in the lifetime just before this. This was a lifetime spent majorly in this country although it began in Ireland. The personality then was an Irish girl who grew up in pleasant, comfortable, middle class circumstances in Ireland, grew up with a devotion to the Church, which was a normal well-balanced part of her life.
She married a neighbor boy, and then when they were in their late twenties the husband decided he wanted to go to the New Country, to the New Land, to the New World. The wife was not happy about this.
She was a homebody, she loved her home, she loved her community, she loved her Parish Church. She was not of the adventurous type. But it did not occur to her to do anything else but go with her husband to the New Land.
She did not like living there and she developed really quite a martyr complex. Now this was mixed up with her religious concept of God as a God of suffering, and this suffering element became, as it were, the service element of her life.
She must serve and so she put herself out to serve, and when hard experiences came then she suffered. She served her husband by being his wife and his homemaker and the mother of his children, but she suffered because as his wife she had to leave her Homeland and all that was dear to her.
She served her children by giving them good physical care, by holding them closely to the Church in their early years. She directed them very definitely along the line of her own thinking and her own opinion. And then when in later life they began to think for themselves and form some opinions that were opposite to her, then she suffered. So the whole framework of that life developed quite a martyr complex.
Now she has come into this lifetime and certain other elements have been introduced within the makeup of the personality to balance this strong sense of martyrdom and suffering. But there is still a carryover of some of that quality and subconsciously she is letting people impose upon her and taking it as suffering and martyrdom.
Now this is in the subconscious level; she is not so aware of this on the conscious level. She has been given a personality with other qualities that make her a happy individual on the whole, and one with wide interests.
But there is very definitely this openness, this expectation that people will use her. And when people used her in the former lifetime she had the religious framework to fit it into. They used her, she suffered, but the Son of God also suffered and so she was one with HIM!
But she does not have that framework in this lifetime. And so being used is not giving her the inner quietness and acceptance that it did in the former life. Now she’s being used and she doesn’t like it, and she’s asking for a way out.
No, the way out for her is rather a drastic way perhaps to the personality. But the way out of being imposed upon is to cut the ties. Her mother is imposing upon her. She does not have to take that. She does not have to continue with the care of her mother. Her mother could be put in a private Rest Home. This is not “putting her away.” Such places do not mistreat the patients.
Oh well, I grant you that perhaps there are places that seem to, but there are many, many places that give very good and understanding and kind care for such people. And it is helpful neither to Martha nor to the mother to maintain the mother there and let the mother be the continuing and constant strain upon Martha. If Martha continues it, the mother is going to get worse. It will become more and more a burden upon Martha.
The mother in a sense does not realize what she is doing. This is a mental condition brought about by the stroke. But she will become increasingly a burden and a care, and if Martha wants to continue the pattern of martyrdom and suffering, then by all means keep the mother with her and wait upon her.
But if she wants to break loose from that pattern then she ought to make intelligent arrangements for the care of the mother that release her from the burden of it.
Q. I take it then that this is not going to be done for Martha, but that as part of her own learning she is going to have to do it herself. Make up her mind and take decisive action.
A.Yes, because if the personality decides to do so and does so, this you see is breaking the established pattern of martyrdom and suffering which has been accepted by the soul.
One personality of the soul put upon the soul this pattern. Another personality of the soul can release the soul from the pattern. In this sense the personality becomes the teacher, the savior if you will, of the soul in this given lifetime.
Q. Well, the way in which one personality can put something on the soul which another personality can lift from it, reminds me of that verse somewhere in the Scriptures, “For since by man came death, by man cometh also the resurrection of the dead.”
A. Yes, that is a very good interpretation. Now Martha also is being imposed upon business-wise. She does not have to continue this. She can take steps, whether it be through a Better Business Organization or whether it be through a complaint and a prosecution of those who write checks that bounce.
Q. Yes, she’s had that kind.
A. She’s got to stand up on her own two feet and fight. Now this does not mean to turn nasty, this does not mean forsaking the love way. She has the idea that love is forgiving and if she loves enough and trusts and has faith, these people will respond to her in like manner.
But they will not, and the loving way very often is to take those steps that will check other people in their wrongdoing. She is letting these people get away with wrongness. She is in that measure condoning wrongness. She is allowing it to be, and as she allows it to be, she is strengthening the pattern of wrongness in other souls.
Q. Sort of letting them build up more karma for themselves.
A. So the truly wise and helpful way is for her to stand up and say, “I will not be imposed upon. I will receive that which has been agreed upon.” And she will learn not to be a martyr.
But she has got to do it. The forces on the other side who work with her are not going to move in and simply make everything easy for her. They will work with her and sustain her and support her and strengthen her and give her guidance on the steps to take. But if she wants to change this pattern she is the one to change it.
Q. Because if someone did it for her she wouldn’t really be learning and growing herself anyway.
A. That’s right.
Q. Well, this covers what Martha has asked that her Reading cover. Of course a Consultation Reading is limited by time to the one question.
Let me ask at this time, is there a final word now for Martha? Not the final word in her life at all but is there anything else you wish to bring to her at this time?
Q. When a soul is prepared for earthliving and is given a definite assignment and something to learn and to achieve in that lifetime, God does a very gracious thing.
Through His Grace and His Love He puts in the personality every quality and ability that is needed to accomplish the learning of that particular earthlife. When He sends a workman into the field he provides the tools.
Now the Martha-personality has the tools, has the abilities and the qualities to carry through this assignment of breaking a carried-over pattern of martyrdom and suffering.
That element which will make the difference between the continuing of the present pattern of imposition, and a new pattern of rightness for her, is the element of choice on the part of the personality.
We have pointed out the choice to her. Now it is up to her. But we assure her that she has the guidance and the love and the protection – all that she needs – to see her through the right choice.
Our love and our blessings go out to her. (2164)
Most of us don’t have to be martyrs or slaves. The choice is ours. And isn’t it nice to know that whatever our purpose, we have what it takes to accomplish what is ours to do?
Along your road of life, remember to take good care of yourself!